Everyone wants to have a best friend. Friendships change over time and your best friend from childhood may not be someone you are close to anymore. And as we get older, it’s harder to form new friendships. Here are some ways to find a best friend.
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Get out. You have to be out and about to meet new people. Join a club. Check if your local library offers book club meetings. Or take a class at your local community college. Meet people who have interests similar to yours.
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Step 2
Network. The people you already know also know other people. Get your name out there! Persuse social networking websites like Myspace.com or Facebook.com. but be careful about giving out too much personal information to people you meet online.
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Step 3
Go to after work functions. If your co-workers occasionally go out for dinner or drinks, join them. The more you go out, the more you will be in touch with others. Attend work-sponsored parties or outings.
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Step 4
Make the first move. That new person at work also may be looking for a new friends. Invite your coworker to lunch and get to know each other. If a new family moves into your neighborhood, offer to show them around town. People are always drawn to a friendly, outgoing person, so make that person be you!
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Step 5
Participate at your children’s school. Hang out with the parents of your kid’s friends. Volunteer for school functions and you will meet plenty of people.
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Step 6
Move to a new neighborhood. If you haven’t made any friends at your current address, change the location. Sometimes a move is all it takes to get you in sync with new people.
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Tuesday, December 25, 2007
Be a good friend
Introduction
Studies show that having a well-balanced social life helps promote a healthy attitude toward life. This doesn’t mean you have to be the life of every party, but it does mean developing strong bonds that can help you through the ups and downs of the world. In order to have great friends, though, you also need to be one. Not sure if you are? Here are some tips.
Instructions
Difficulty: Moderately Easy
Steps
1Step OneBe there for them when they need you, not when you need something from them. Good friends don’t call up people only to request a favor. While knowing people that can help you out is important, it’s equally important not to abuse the relationship. Focus on what your friend is going through at the moment. Are they happy? A little lonely? Maybe they need to talk about their kid going away to college or the fact that they are worried about their in-laws. Whatever the situation, put yourself second and listen to what’s being said directly and implied in their conversations.
2Step TwoDon’t wait for friends to call you. Make an effort to keep in touch with people. Everyone is busy, but if you want to maintain good friendships you should be proactive about communications. It doesn’t mean you have to sit on the phone for two hours a day, but it does mean you send an email, a card, or give them a quick call to let them know you’re thinking about them.
3Step ThreeRespond to them in a timely manner. There’s nothing more frustrating than sending a friend an email or note, and having them ignore it because they are “too busy.” Everyone is busy. If someone is your friend, you make the effort to be kind to them. Responding to their questions and requests is one way you can do that.
4Step FourDon’t be part of the gossip train. Bad mouthing people you call friends is one of the worst things you can do. Don’t be catty or talk about them behind their backs. Don’t hang out with someone just so you can go back to someone else and talk about your friend. Decide if you are someone’s friend, or not, and act accordingly.
5Step FiveBe happy for them. It may sound ridiculous, but some folks just can’t be happy at their friend’s successes. Don’t be someone that’s only in for complaining about life. When your friend hits it big – celebrate with them. When they’re interviewing for a new job – pull for them. When they want to find love – be gracious and supportive when they find it. There is nothing better in the world than having people that support and care about you. Go out of your way to show your support for your friend.
Studies show that having a well-balanced social life helps promote a healthy attitude toward life. This doesn’t mean you have to be the life of every party, but it does mean developing strong bonds that can help you through the ups and downs of the world. In order to have great friends, though, you also need to be one. Not sure if you are? Here are some tips.
Instructions
Difficulty: Moderately Easy
Steps
1Step OneBe there for them when they need you, not when you need something from them. Good friends don’t call up people only to request a favor. While knowing people that can help you out is important, it’s equally important not to abuse the relationship. Focus on what your friend is going through at the moment. Are they happy? A little lonely? Maybe they need to talk about their kid going away to college or the fact that they are worried about their in-laws. Whatever the situation, put yourself second and listen to what’s being said directly and implied in their conversations.
2Step TwoDon’t wait for friends to call you. Make an effort to keep in touch with people. Everyone is busy, but if you want to maintain good friendships you should be proactive about communications. It doesn’t mean you have to sit on the phone for two hours a day, but it does mean you send an email, a card, or give them a quick call to let them know you’re thinking about them.
3Step ThreeRespond to them in a timely manner. There’s nothing more frustrating than sending a friend an email or note, and having them ignore it because they are “too busy.” Everyone is busy. If someone is your friend, you make the effort to be kind to them. Responding to their questions and requests is one way you can do that.
4Step FourDon’t be part of the gossip train. Bad mouthing people you call friends is one of the worst things you can do. Don’t be catty or talk about them behind their backs. Don’t hang out with someone just so you can go back to someone else and talk about your friend. Decide if you are someone’s friend, or not, and act accordingly.
5Step FiveBe happy for them. It may sound ridiculous, but some folks just can’t be happy at their friend’s successes. Don’t be someone that’s only in for complaining about life. When your friend hits it big – celebrate with them. When they’re interviewing for a new job – pull for them. When they want to find love – be gracious and supportive when they find it. There is nothing better in the world than having people that support and care about you. Go out of your way to show your support for your friend.
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